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You don't have to put up with threatening or abusive behaviour - recognise it when it's happening to you and how to deal with it.
You probably don't go around hitting or shouting at people at school or at home so you shouldn't put up with it yourself.
It can also be upsetting and confusing if you see this kind of behaviour going on with the people around you and you're not sure what to do or where to get help.
There's lots of help and support available to help you recognise when it's happening to you or the people you know and how to deal with it.
Domestic abuse is any threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between adults who are or have been in a relationship, or between family members. It can be psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional abuse. Domestic abuse is rarely a one-off incident, but a pattern of power and control over you.
It's things like verbal insults, threats, being criticised or put down all the time, being hit or having sexually contact you're not happy with or don't agree to.
Victims of domestic abuse tend to be girls and women but boys and men can suffer too and there's help available for everyone.
Abuse is never ok and you don't have to put up with it. You can get the confidence you need to break out of an abusive relationship on the This is Abuse website, designed just for teenagers.
Physical abuse is when someone means to hurt you - it's not an accident.
This kind of abuse causes physical pain or an injury, anything from marks and bruising to bleeding and broken bones. Abuse includes pushing, slapping, biting, hitting, kicking, burning or holding you when you want to get away.
Don't let anyone tell you it's not serious - all abuse is unacceptable and all abuse is against the law. GET HELP
Sexual abuse involves someone forcing or encouraging you to take part in sexual activities. Whether or not you are aware of what is happening, it is still abuse.
This may involve physical contact including penetrative sex, oral sex, masturbation, kissing, rubbing, or touching outside of clothing.
Or it may involve non-contact activities such as asking you to watch sexual activities, making or looking at sexual images, encouraging you to behave in a sexual way or persuading you by buying you things. This can happen online or in person.
Abusers can be men, women or other children.
Sexual abuse is serious. If you ever feel uncomfortable or pressured into taking part in sexual activities, tell someone.
WHO TO CALL
- Derbyshire Domestic Abuse Helpline 'Stop Hurting' on 08000 198 668 and talk to a trained councellor or leave a message for someone to get back to you
- Children's Social Care on 01629 533190
- Derbyshire Constabulary on 101, or
- Public Health on 01246 515 700 or 01332 888 080 ext 8383.
Where to go
Multi Agency Teams are in the community and bring together staff from health and social care, education support and children's centres. They work closely with Job Centre Plus, GPs and community groups. You can go to a centre and speak to someone who can help.